Throwing GUILT, oh my! We can all probably say we’ve thrown a little guilt at one time or another! Here’s the thing about guilt, it makes the guilt-delivering-person and the guilt-receiving-person feel bad. Not wanting to Move-Family-Treasures-Guilt is the pain of not wanting to let go and hoping that others feel the same way about your treasures as you do OR you will try to make them feel the same way and that does NOT work!
Mostly, it’s elder parents who downsize before their adult children downsize and want the adult children to take all the “stuff” they have collected from ancestors before them. Many years earlier the elder parents accepted their own parent’s treasures because, during that particular period of time, things generally were A. well made, B. cost a fortune and C. it was understood those treasures were intended to be passed down. So, we have Baby Boomers holding on to their grandparent’s possessions and now they are the ones looking to downsize and give the items they no longer want or need to their children. Guess what? The grandchildren, in general, don’t want those family treasures. They have purchased or rented furniture that is contemporary, sleek and light in many cases: heavy, brown furniture does not fit into their lifestyle.
Many adult grandchildren move frequently and change jobs just as frequently, they are not “Company Lifers” and I don’t mean that “Lifers” is a bad term, it just doesn’t seem to apply lately. They tend to rent more than own and the dwellings they rent are smaller and cannot fit the large profile furniture of their grandparents. Their color schemes are different than the muted greens, browns, oranges of their grandparents and frankly, you can buy a new piece of furniture in the color you want cheaper than if you take something to be re-upholstered in a new color/pattern. AND, the fabrics are different now, a big one being they can be sun and stain resistant, something their grandparents didn’t have incorporated into their furniture.
Trinkets, novelties, figurine collectibles are not so desirable to the adult grandchildren. They have no space and many former family treasures have no meaning to them. They, smartly, prefer to have less to dust and keep clean!! Good for them, let’s join them and get rid of that Not-Moving-Family-Treasure-Guilt! Contact me for help moving and sign up on this home page for my newsletter.