My guest today is Stephanie Dalfonzo who has spent more than 20 years researching holistic, natural, and scientifically proven ways to more than just manage stress and anxiety but build emotional resilience and truly break free from its vice-like grip. Stephanie is the author of Goodbye Anxiety, Hello Freedom: How to Build Resilience and Overcome Anxiety I thought it was important to speak with her now that stress and anxiety have a tight grip on a lot of us.
“When listening to someone, ask what’s going right, right now?” ~Author Stephanie Dalfonzo
Stephanie Dalfonzo- Holistic, Natural Assistance for Anxiety Tips from today:
Statistic- Prescriptions for anti-anxiety have increased by 34.1 percent in February 2020
One size anxiety relief does not fit all
Simple works
It’s a practice; never too late to start reducing anxiety
Know that you can get past this- it’s a rough spot
When listening to someone, ask what’s going right, right now?
Don’t create your own PTSD
High power, two-minute pose- body language impact
Smiling creates happy hormones
Rest, digest and relax
Favorite ice cream: mint chocolate chip and butter brickle
Song that reminds you of your youth and why: Got to be Real
My guest today is Cynthia Perthuis who leads and owns the Senior Care Authority offices in New York City and Southwest Florida. Cynthia has a passion for helping others and advocating for those that do not have the ability to speak for themselves. Her own personal experience with her parents and her entrepreneurial background has helped so many family members with the stress of helping and caring for aging loved ones.
I thought today we could chat about “The Talk”. The Talk is having a discussion with a loved one about being alone in their home is no longer an option, it isn’t safe.
Are you trying to help someone who needs more care to make the decision to move out of their home?
Helping an older person choose to move from their home to assisted living is never easy. She answers:
What are the steps to having The Talk
What are the ways to have The Talk
Who should have The Talk
What are some things to watch out for
Cynthia is an advocate, providing guidance on elders staying at home, or seeking assisted living options, here are some of her suggestions:
The talk with a parent/parents may require more than one conversation
Baggage regarding the conversation- might be fear, other factors
Begin the talk with pen and paper; record what you’re thinking
Identify the players, before the talk- may include siblings, Attorney- they all need to be on the same page with the person impacted by the decision to move or stay in place
Identify any challenges- financial, misinformation
Teachable moments- 911 calls, for example
Selfless phrases- it is about the person and not whoever begins the discussions
Choose the correct time for the talk
In-person tours of locations/virtual tours, and stipulate what is offered- trips, activities, food on offer
Favorite ice cream: Halo Top mint chocolate chip
The song that reminds you of your youth: Boys of Summer
Leisure time activity: Cynthia has recently discovered pickleball, yoga
“When you open yourself up to the possibility of things that could be, and the moments that they appear, there’s great joy that comes from that.” ~Tim Bailey
Tim explains:
how empowered he felt doing relief work
what discoveries he learning from others
the many facets to the term social work
the importance of focusing on community efforts in needed areas of the world
how to open yourself up to things that could be
appreciate how fate can provide you with opportunities
Understanding a deeper meaning of community, humanity and true connection with others.
Laughter is the universal language
The Power of the Unexpected
Take important risks, not poor ones.
The joy of being open to what could happen instead of sticking to a rigid plan
“The most amazing experiences come from taking a risk.”
I feel your experiences make you the perfect person to work with seniors, they too have had the most amazing experiences!!!
Favorite ice cream: pumpkin
Song that reminds you of your youth and why: anything 90’s, Counting Crows, Smashing Pumpkins
What do you do with your leisure time? Gardening, being with the dogs, Anything on Candlewood Lake. Dream trip: Drive through Canada and down through Maine
Dream: To own The Dapper Dachshund Inn
To get in touch with Tim Bailey or to visit Church Hill Village:
Church Hill Village Premiere Newtown Senior Living
2 The Boulevard
Newtown, CT 06470
This episode is sponsored by DeClutter By Deirdre, A Senior Move Management and DeCluttering for Aging In Place Company. Helping You and Your Loved Ones DeClutter, Move & Live a Fuller Life. Look at my website and contact me to work together at DeClutterByDeirdre@gmail.comwww.DeClutterByDeirdre.com
Association of Personal Photo Organizers is now: The Photo Managers and can be reached at https://ThePhotoManagers.com
This episode is sponsored by DeClutter By Deirdre, A Senior Move Management and DeCluttering for Aging In Place Company. Helping You and Your Loved Ones DeClutter, Move & Live a Fuller Life. Look at my website and contact me to work together at DeClutterByDeirdre@gmail.comwww.DeClutterByDeirdre.com
“Ann has been a staunch advocate for the elderly and the disabled for more than a decade. She has the distinction of being a Certified Elder Law Attorney (CELA) by the National Elder Law Foundation* and is accredited to practice before the Department of Veterans Affairs. Her extensive knowledge in the area of elder law enables her to assist the elderly and the disabled in realizing the very best quality of life. Her elder law practice focuses on long-term care planning, asset preservation strategies, Medicaid applications, disability planning, utilizing conservatorships/guardianship and special needs trusts. Her estate planning practice includes the creation of wills, trusts, and advance directives. Ann also handles probate administration. ” Copied from Cohenandwolf.com
This episode is sponsored by DeClutter By Deirdre, A Senior Move
Management and DeCluttering for Aging In Place Company. Helping You and Your
Loved Ones DeClutter, Move & Live a Fuller Life. Look at my website and
contact me to work together at DeClutterByDeirdre@gmail.comwww.DeClutterByDeirdre.com
Deirdre Gives 5 Tips to Help You Prepare For a Move
Listen in for an explanation of each tip.
Here are your 5 tips to prepare for a move:
Assess your abilities
Invite a trusted friend or professional to help you
Be honest with yourself regarding how much you can handle
Start with one very small area of your home, especially if you are decluttering on your own
Give yourself double to triple the amount of time you think it will take you
Good luck, contact me if you to want to engage a professional, it will just take a minute to get you set up and on your way to an easy move.
This episode is sponsored by DeClutter By Deirdre, A Senior Move Management and DeCluttering for Aging In Place Company. Helping You and Your Loved Ones DeClutter, Move & Live a Fuller Life. Look at my website and contact me to work together at DeClutterByDeirdre@gmail.comwww.DeClutterByDeirdre.com
Deidre and Taylor Burke: What Do I Do For My Aging Hair?
“The older women are who sit in my chair, I feel the more confident they are.”
“We want to push you out of your comfort box but we don’t want you running for the hills either. “
“I’m the type of stylist that encourages people to embrace their hair, I hate when people keep fighting it. It’s in your DNA to flatter you.” ~Taylor Burke
Hairstylist Taylor Burke gives us lots of hints to take care of our aging hair. Why hasn’t someone told me these hints before now???
We discuss women’s dirty little secret, the importance of moisture in aging hair and the very eye-opening reason to clean and massage your hairline daily.
Some easy to implement, result-based hints include:
How many times a week should you wash your hair?
Why/how to use dry shampoo (did you know it comes in colors?)
Shampoo or conditioner, which has the most effect on your hair?
Should you purchase higher-end products from Goldwell or Bumble and bumble for example or do lower-priced or more generic work just as well?
Should you change your shampoo often?
How to embrace your hair to flatter you and who you are
How to prevent breakage
Which products to use for aging hair?
Which works best for our aging hair: mousse, gel, oil?
The best way to treat curly hair
The most flattering hair length for mid-lifers
How often should we cut our hair?
Leisure time is spent with her adorable daughter
Taylor’s favorite ice cream? Cookie Jar
What song reminds you of your youth and why? Backstreet Boys, Britney Spears, anything 90’s
This episode is sponsored by DeClutter By Deirdre, A Senior Move management. Helping You and Your Loved Ones DeClutter, Move & Live a Fuller Life. Take a look at my website and contact me to work together. www.DeClutterByDeirdre.com
“You want
to get the (Long Term Care) insurance when you don’t need it so you have it
when you do need it.”
“Helping
people live life on their terms.” ~Norman Shaffer
In this podcast I
interview C. Norman Shaffer an Agent with New York Life helping individuals and
business owners to create, build, and preserve wealth who educated me on Long
Term Care Insurance and its primary benefits:
Peace of mind for you
and loved ones
Benefits to your
family
Allows you to manage
risk
Alleviates burden of
care
People don’t want to
think about what they will do if they are no longer to live independently
without help to perform Activities of Daily Living.
C. Norman explains:
Who determines when
benefits begin
At what age should you
explore Long Term Care Insurance
Everyone has a Long
Term Care Plan
The average length of Long Term Care event
If there are age
limits to acquiring Long Term Care Insurance
Eligibility
requirements
Favorite ice cream: chocolate
The song that conjures up the best childhood memories: Help by the Beatles
Leisure time activities: Family time, biking
As a licensed Agent of New York Life Insurance Company,
Norman offers a variety of products that can help you meet a number of
insurance and financial needs, including, but not limited to college funding,
retirement, managing costs for extended periods of care and lifetime income
strategies. Please contact Norman at CNSHAFFER@ft.NewYorkLife.com to help you
fully analyze your needs and recommend appropriate solutions.
Neither DeClutter By Deirdre or New York Life
Insurance Company, nor its agents, provides tax, legal, or accounting advice.
Please consult your own tax, legal, or accounting professionals before making
any decisions. Any testimonial on this site is based on an individual’s
experience and may not be representative of the experience of other customers.
These testimonials are no guarantee of future performance or success. C. Norman
Shaffer is not licensed in all jurisdictions. 10885 NE 4th Street, Bellevue, WA 98003,
206-550-2667. C Norman Shaffer California Insurance license
number is 0M50311.
This episode is sponsored by DeClutter By Deirdre, A Senior Move
management. Helping You and Your Loved Ones DeClutter, Move & Live a Fuller
Life. Take a look at my website and contact me to work together.www.DeClutterByDeirdre.com
“We are satisfied when we send someone to a client’s home that we would want in our home” ~Isaac Schwartz
Have you ever wondered if you should use an agency or a registry when exploring in-home care? When should you reach out? What impacts the success of in-home care? Do you need medical or non-medical personnel to help you or your loved one?
Isaac Schwartz from Emerest Health explains the differences between the options available to you or a loved one and tells us how a care coordinator can help so you have a successful experience.
You will learn:
The difference between medical and non-medical in-home care
Agency and Registry explained
When to contact an agency
What a care coordinator does
How the newer Connecticut 24 Hour Care Law impacts you
The ONE important thing that impacts the success of in-home care
Calling Isaac at Emerest Health, 203-941-1700, can answer your questions and put your mind at ease.
This episode is sponsored by DeClutter By Deirdre, A Senior Move management. Helping You and Your Loved Ones DeClutter, Move & Live a Fuller Life. Take a look at my website and contact me to work together.www.DeClutterByDeirdre.com